The wind and the waves are always on the side of the ablest navigator.
I love sailing. I've spent many hours blasting across Mission Bay. It's the perfect sport for someone interested in sun, sand, water, and low speed aerodynamics. When I first learned how to sail I was frequently capsized by an unexpected gust of wind. I probably wasn't too much fun to sail with either because my insecurities were frequently taken out on my crew: "Grab that line!", "Move - Hurry!"
As I got better at sailing I started to learn to be able to read the water and be ready for whatever came our way. I knew how to recognize when a gust was about to hit us, when the current was about to change, and how to get right on an edge and stay there all day long. This was a lot of fun for everyone!
As I mentor new managers I tell them that learning to lead a team is a lot like learning to sail. As they become more skillful captains they'll get a much better feel for their ship and their abilities. They'll start to recognize impending gusts and have their lines already set. They'll learn to relax their grip on the rudder, making myriad imperceptible corrections instead of drastic changes in direction. They'll understand how to get from Point A to Point B with urgency and a lack of drama. When there's more to speed to be had, and when it's prudent to just head back to shore and call it a day.
Good leadership takes time, training, patience, and an occasional dunking. Keep at it.